#discourse

[carapaced]

I’m putting “mansplaining” on a shelf with the other terms the internet isn’t allowed to have anymore like trigger and gaslight. Mansplaining is a specific phenomenon that happens within certain contexts and I feel it’s just been turned into “any conversation that’s mildly annoying you are having with someone who happens to be a man/masculine.”

[iiellsspace]

Also there are some very important discussions about sex that we should be having without people A getting to horny to think rationally or B to repulsed by/ afraid of sex to think rationally.

I believe sex should just be seen as one of many things in life and the hype around it makes it less safe for everyone.

i walk a fine line between “i’m asexual and i hate how much the world revolves around sex” and “sex is way too stigmatized and people should be able to be more open about it if they want to”

[genderqueer-butch]

The people saying "trans men aren't incapable of being misogynistic" drive me crazy because "misogyny is a thing that is present and prevalent like literally everywhere and is inescapable and literally everyone can perpetuate misogynistic ideas and beliefs" is just, like, basic Feminism.

[cupcraft]

Wilbur Soot Gold is an abuser point blank and hes not sorry. He just openly says it..he is not sorry. He hurt not just Shelby but others who came forward at that time too (such as Nicki Nihachu). He wants a platform to make money. Its convenient he cant even say which "labels he doesnt agree with". He cant even say the word abuse. He cant even say the word misogynist. He is a sick fucking individual who deserves no fans nor platform. That includes his miserable band who supports him. But I can say it. Hes a misogynistic abuser with multiple victims who wont grt help and take any accountability. Rot

[cdigoddess]

disenfranchisement

[takashi0]

That attitude is the reason the word's making a comeback, you people never learn lmfao

we are not reviving the r slur. if you hear someone say it tell them to cut that shit out. it’s not funny or edgy and we need to make people embarrassed and uncomfortable saying it

[d-0-t-t]

"mirrorshipping", "doppelbanging", pussy ass behavior. look who can't say selfcest

[rosegardendeprofundis]

For the amount of times “don’t believe everything you read on the internet” has been drilled into us, we sure do spread a lot of BS as fact.

with love. you have to fact check shit. yes you. you still have to fact check shit. a lot of people are great at fact checking stuff they don’t want to be true, but somehow are still absolute ass at fact checking stuff that’s rhetorically convenient to them. even people my age, who I KNOW grew up doing internet/bibliography literacy workshops, and being warned not to believe anything that isn’t reliably sourced, people who DO harp on fact checking conservative output or whatever, are still kneejerk sharing unsourced shit that is partially or wholly untrue or misleading, because it suits whatever narrative they’re pursuing in that moment, without even a “take this with a grain of salt”. fact check!!!!!! look at the sources!!!!! yes it’s a drag!!! do it!!!!!

[lvambi]

I don't want to be a party pooper but the lesbian community still has so much fatphobia and lookism to unlearn, it's genuinely sad. I always want to elaborate but every time this topic comes around it feels like screaming at the wall.

Learn to love fat femmes. Not "because they are soft", not because there "is more to bite". Love and respect fat femmes for who they are.

Same goes for fat butches, they are not only lovable because "they are beefy" or "they can put their weight on you" or some other shit. They are lovable because they are themselves, just like you are you.

You don't have to make us feel better about ourselves with all these backhanded compliments. Just make us feel like everyone else and start viewing fat bodies as normal and desirable ones without making it weird.

[iamnmbr3]

Really wish people could learn the difference between a plot hole and a character making a mistake. Just because the character messed up doesn’t mean the author did.

[wisebillygaysex]

genuinely so poetic how most ex dsmp fans have moved on to different fandoms and people and content creators and yet we all still come together to gather like its the last supper whenever dream does some stupid shit. communal white man shaming unites the world like no other

[toxicanonymity]

"I guarantee dark fic readers wouldn't want some guy off the street to do these things to them IRL" 😤

"Some fics aren't canon compliant, and some don't even pretend to have plot" 😤

"Some people read their favorites the most" 😤

"Some people dont reblog til after a blog they follow does" 😤

[velvetvexations]

Everyone who says things like T4T was only ever for transbians should be assumed to be a malicious liar. Anyone who says femboys were ever about transfeminine people should be assumed to be maliciously transmisogynistic liars who think trans women are men, even if they're trans women themselves. Anyone who says blahajs were ever transfem-exclusive should be assumed to be malicious liars who are objectively, 100% the most idiotic whiners that could possibly exist, and are best dealt with by telling them to go to their room without supper.

No, really, I'm serious, don't give them the benefit of the doubt. If it hurts they're feelings to have their motives assumed they should stop partaking in the erasure of other trans people. Sometimes hurt feelings are how you make people stop doing bad things.

[conarcoin]

"gooner" is straight up just a weird conservative dogwhistle at this point

[griffonatrix]

"you don't have to transition to be trans": overdone, dull, runs cover for taking away medical care from those who need it

"you don't have to be trans to transition": exciting, poignant, radical perspective on the right to bodily autonomy